Our Wedding Day: God, the Master Matchmaker

30 Jul 2011 Leave a Comment

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It was a cold morning May of 2007, just a few weeks after I had a big, messy break up with a relationship. I felt as miserable as ever, but something clicked differently that day. I found myself reading three books that got me through that tough time in my life: The Bible, The Daily Bread and God’s Devotional Book for Women, which were all, ironically (or not), given to me by the boy who broke my trust, respect and heart. I finally read them after ignoring them for a long time. These three books revealed something each and every single day of those morbid days when I thought I’ll never be happy again. It told me of things that were contrary to what my feelings were telling me:

1 Corinthians 2:9 No eye has seen, no ear has heard the good that the Lord prepared for those who wait on Him…

This verse came up in the devotional and it really spoke to me. I wasn’t one who was tight with God then and because I grew up in a worldly environment, ‘waiting on God’ wasn’t something that I even remotely considered when making decisions. But there I was, broken-hearted, and had no one else to turn to, save for my family and a few close friends, who were good in supporting, but were just as clueless as I was at why things turned out the way they did. The moment I started seeking, God came through ever so quickly…like He was just waiting for me the entire time. And there He was, telling me, so gently and so lovingly, that I haven’t seen anything yet, that I haven’t heard anything yet…if I just learn to wait on Him.

What seemed to be bound as my days of doom, became the most amazing turning point in my life. It was the start of my journey as a believer of God. That same day, I remember crying and praying out loud these words…

“Dear God, it really hurts, but knowing that You are here listening and watching over me gives me such comfort. Please don’t ever leave me. I cling on to You alone. I know that You have been waiting for me and I’m sorry that it took this long and this much of a mess to make me turn to You. Lord, I know now that anything that isn’t from You is never ever going to last and they shouldn’t. For You only give the best for your people. Today, I would like to make a promise – I promise that I will dedicate my life to You. Please lead me from now on. And while I seek You, God, please let there be no distractions in my life. I want to give my focus solely to You. I really don’t want anyone to come my way who isn’t from You, so please do something, so I may not be distracted by them. Let the next man You’ll let in to my life be the one You have prepared for me. I don’t want to settle for anything less than what and who You want for me. I want to learn how to wait on You.”

And wait on God I did. This ‘waiting’ grew on me so well that it did not feel like I was waiting at all! Being single, getting to know God more and being surrounded by His people, was the most amazing gifts from God. God’s timing is amazing – during this time, He made sure that I learned to listen and recognise His voice. He revealed things about Himself, which in turn, helped me to understand my own identity better. He even guided me about what I wanted from my life and gave me a glimpse of the great things I can achieve in the future. I was slowly, and occasionally painfully, shaped into the woman that God wants me to be – this is still an ongoing process, mind you, and it is not without resistance from me, but I have to say, it is worth it and whatever He does, I know now it is always for my own good!

As God started moulding my heart, He also started moulding my mind. He changed my broken perspective about relationships and marriage – and told me of how great they can be when they are committed to Him. Looking back, I was afraid of committing myself fully to any relationship because of what I’ve seen from relationships around me, and so, I would flee when the going gets tough in a relationship. If it gets too complicated, I was the kind of girl who would ‘abandon ship’ with no qualms whatsoever.  I guess you can tell from this, I wasn’t one who behaved very well in my past relationships. I did make sure I always had ready ‘alternatives’ because I thought no one can really be trusted anyway, so why should I make the effort to be trustworthy? You betcha I gave God the hardest time, but the best part is that, He never gave up on me! He kept on probing and in each circumstance, I began to recognise His grace and love for me.

And God knew me so well. He even knew exactly the kind of man I belong to be with – someone who can correct me, guide me, someone who knows when I’m making stuff up and can see through most of my fronts, and direct me to God and His word. I am so grateful that Kevin is a man I can worship God with, lead worship with, serve God with and pray to God with.

Wow. Let me just take a moment here to breathe in all of that realisation.

Even I still find it unbelievable at times. I am with the best godly man God has prepared for me — one who loves me, but loves God first; someone who is directed by his passion for God and inspired by a great vision from God. These are the most amazing gifts ever! I had no idea that these things are ever possible in a relationship! What joy waiting on God has brought me! I continue to be amazed by the way He leads Kevin and myself, how He moulds us, blesses us, and anoints us…together. It is truly indescribable how grateful I am and how blessed God makes me feel…EVERYDAY.

Kevin is flawed, just as I am flawed, but here we are, together, in A RELATIONSHIP BY DIVINE APPOINTMENT (many words and prophecies about this and related to this were spoken over us, but they shall all appear in this blog as they come to pass) and so, despite our flaws, we are confident in God to help us through the bad times ahead, and to keep our hearts humble in the good times.

ON DECEMBER 17th, 2011, a divine appointment was fulfilled – I married the man who is everything that I have hoped for and much, much more. I married the man God has prepared for me all this time. Thank You, Lord, for planning this marriage way ahead of us. Thank you for being the divine and absolute matchmaker. What can I say — YOU are oh SO GOOD and SO LOVING to me…to us! You are amazing and so, this blog entry is dedicated to You and to the great work You have done and are still doing in our lives. We love You, Lord. Carry on with Your great work. Mr. and Mrs. Kevin Roche are YOURS.

Hope you enjoy watching our video!

Lotsa love,

R-Dee Roche

Feature Album: Sounds of Freedom by INSPIREM

18 Apr 2012 Leave a Comment

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My wonderful and übertalented friend, Esther Dorcas Wong, who is the brain and heart of INSPIREM Music, has just released her second album called, Sounds of Freedom. I have to say from the first track alone, I’m already captivated by the depth of her music. My personal favourite is ‘Colours of Life’, which truly just takes you to a different place.

So close your eyes, listen and be carried away by the music of INSPIREM.

Honeymoon Season: Our Easter break out West

10 Apr 2012 Leave a Comment

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After circling the whole of Western Springs Park for a good 15 minutes, we finally found our perfect spot, which was reading and picnic-friendly i.e. devoid of toddlers running about and sans duck poo haha!

Oh, how we love holidays! Thank you, Lord, for the most amazing sun yesterday. Thank you, too, for giving us time to rest in you and know more about you. =)

Honeymoon Season: My engagement ring a year after

02 Mar 2012 1 Comment

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I thought since we’re celebrating our engagement this week that I should re-share the story behind it. My version of the engagement should be in one of my Engagement Season posts, but here is Kevin’s side of the story: Kevin’s Blog.

Here is a photo of my beautiful engagement ring sitting on my wedding bouquet. This was taken by Felix Wu on our wedding day.

Honeymoon Season: It’s been a year since he proposed!

01 Mar 2012 Leave a Comment

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Oh how time flies! I’m excited to celebrate today with Kev and reminisce about the year that’s been! And like a cherry topping to the yummiest dessert, we received great news from the management at Southern Studios , letting us know that our engagement photo was picked to be included in their newly revamped website! Here’s to just one of our many money shots! More to come! =)

Honeymoon Season: Some Things Matter (a poem by Kevin Roche)

14 Feb 2012 1 Comment

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Kevin wrote this poem for me, sometime back in 2010, just a few months after we got together and after a huge argument that lasted until the wee hours of the morning. As we are both head-strong, we found ourselves trapped in a mesh of arguments that led us to say some unkind words to each other. When all was said and done, neither one of us felt relieved. Feeding the heat of an argument with proud and harsh words only made things worse for us. It took us some time to learn how to communicate well with each other, and how to speak to each other, ALWAYS with love and kindness, even in situations when we don’t see each other eye to eye.

We ended that night with a ‘let’s agree to disagree’ note. But because there were already new wounds that were created, not from the original argument, but as a result of bad handling of the argument, we both struggled to be at peace. In his quiet time with God, Kev was led to a revelation, which inspired him to write this poem.

“Charm, I hope I’m not making a fool out of myself. I’ve been thinking and this poem captures my thoughts. It’s not eloquent, but it’s from me…”

Some Things Matter
by: Kevin Roche

Many things in life don’t matter,

Some things do,

In ten years’ time many decisions don’t matter,

In ten years’ time, some things do.

I hate that we’ve been fighting,

It makes me very sad,

I’m sorry for the things I’ve said,

For all the words that I can’t take back.

You matter to me a lot,

More than an argument,

More than being right

I want to say I’m sorry,

I didn’t mean to start a fight,

That’s the last thing on my mind,

As I call you late at night.

If there are things I need to change,

Please help me through,

For I have found something that matters,

And I want to see this through.

There are things that are worth arguing for. There are things that are just not worth wasting a perfectly great day for. One of the important things we learned from all those bad days when we were just learning to adjust with each other, is that issues can be filtered. We can choose to let go of things which have sprung out of plain emotions unguarded by Godly wisdom. Another key lesson we learned is that the tone of voice when we communicate our points across, sets the pace. There’s a saying, “Often, it is not what you say, but how you say things that matter”. This saying still holds true. Pause, think and adjust your tone accordingly. Gentleness is love in motion. Lastly, we need to be open to changes. We need to be able to own up to our own imperfections and weaknesses. Doing this does not mean that you are admitting to be a failure. It simply means that you have the maturity to acknowledge areas of improvements in your life, and that you have the strength of character to want to change it for the better. As with the new believer’s prayer, we acknowledge that we have sinned and it is only through Jesus that we can be saved, and then we accept Him to be the Lord of our lives. Transformation starts with a simple acknowledgement.
“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as Christ forgave you.” -Ephesians 4:32.

To everyone, have a blessed week and God-filled relationships. Happy Valentine’s Day!
Love,
R-Dee Gargason Roche

Our Wedding Day: Teaser Vid

23 Jan 2012 Leave a Comment

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Our wedding day was really a joint project between Kev and myself. I took care of the creative aspects and management, he took care of the finances/accounting and execution on the wedding day. As I wasn’t allowed to do anything anymore on our wedding day, he made sure that everything was executed properly on the day, and as expected, my honey was brilliant at it (*GROOMZILLA alert). Of course, this meant that we communicated everything to each other – from the correct shape of water jugs to the kind of classic car we should be hiring. With everything, we really took the time to put things on excel sheets and folders for visualisation, and we set time each Saturday mostly in Bucklands Beach, to mull things over and make things happen. I don’t know about you guys, but it was such a joy to be working together with Kev, and even as I write this now, I am overwhelmed by the realisation that we were able to pull a great wedding with just the two of us organising. For couples out there who are thinking of planning your own weddings in the near future, DO consider it as it can be done! The only catch is that both of you have to want to work on it together and to constantly commit things to God. Trust me when I say this is going to be so much fun for the both of you.

Mind you guys, there were tough moments as there were BIG decisions to be made, but again, it came back to the fact that we have committed this wedding, even before we started doing anything about it, into God’s hands. Through His grace, we were able to glide along tough spots and come out stronger than ever each time.

We also had very supportive family and friends to help us through. Their prayers and love really brought covering for us during this time. We’d like to dedicate this blog entry to all of you who thought of us on a very special moment in our lives. Thank you and we hope and pray you will keep us in your prayers as we keep you in ours. Our wedding was perfect because of you. =)

Love,

Mr. & Mrs. Roche

 

Wedding Day: Teaser Shot

20 Jan 2012 Leave a Comment

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I am so sorry for the delay, it won’t be too long now! Also teaser video coming up this week. Stay tuned and stay wonderful! =)

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